The Florida Folks

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I had the pleasure of meeting Maite, a kind and resilient individual who has faced her fair share of challenges in life. Maite was born in Chile and moved to the US with her family at the young age of six, in pursuit of a better life.

When I asked Maite about her hardships, she shared that not being able to see her family back home as often as she would like has been a source of struggle for her. I could empathize with the longing Maite feels to be close to her loved ones.

Despite these hardships, Maite remains positive and determined. She emphasized the importance of surrounding yourself with positive energy, even in difficult times, and shared that building strong relationships with friends and loved ones can help fill the void left by physical distance.

Maite's resilience and positive outlook on life are truly inspiring. It was a pleasure to speak with her. I hope that her advice will resonate with others who may be facing similar struggles in their own lives.

Meet Deleah McClendon, a 28 year old woman who has recently moved to Southwest Florida with her husband, whom she met in grad school in Albany, Georgia. 

After moving to Florida, they got married and a few months later, found out that they were expecting their first child, Layla.

Deleah shared with me that Layla had given her a sense of purpose and motivation that she had never experienced before. This prompted her to start a new at-home business called Deleah's Delights, which specializes in chocolate-covered treats. She wanted to deliver a luxury experience to her customers with unique and eye-catching treats that leave people saying, "Oh, this is too beautiful to eat."

Deleah explained that mixing her love for desserts with her love for creativity and making things with her hands gave her a way to maintain her mental well-being. Deleah's Delights started in September 2022, and she is still learning and growing, but she's excited about what the future holds.

In addition to her treat-making business, Deleah also joined Treeline Realty as a real estate agent. She is passionate about representing buyers and sellers and feels like the team at Treeline Realty is a close-knit family.

When I asked Deleah to describe a moment in her life that was particularly meaningful, she said that each and every moment in life is beautiful, but the most meaningful challenge for her is overcoming her own fear. After having her daughter, she gained a lot of confidence and courage, which motivated her to step out of her comfort zone and be a good role model for her daughter.

Deleah's Delights has a slogan that she lives by: "With every bite and every taste, we hope to spread joy." She wants to make a lasting impact on someone's life and spread love and kindness wherever she goes.

Meet Ariadna, a determined and hardworking woman who left her home country of Cuba in pursuit of a better life in the United States. She recalls her arrival in 2006 as a pivotal moment in her life, one that brought her opportunities that she could have never imagined before.

Ariadna vividly remembers how life in Cuba was a constant struggle, with limited resources and a sense of hopelessness that pervaded every aspect of society. But upon her arrival in the United States, she was struck by how different everything was.

She immediately began working hard and was amazed by how much more she could accomplish with her earnings than she ever could in Cuba.

As she built her life in the US, Ariadna experienced many other significant moments. She started a family, and today she is a proud mother of two children. She is grateful to live in a country where her kids can have access to opportunities that were beyond her own reach.

When asked what advice she would offer to others who are considering moving to the US from Cuba, Ariadna stresses the importance of hard work and perseverance. She urges others to embrace a good work ethic, to go to school and to communicate effectively in English.

Ariadna knows from personal experience that with hard work and dedication, anyone can achieve their dreams. She encourages others to do the same and to never give up on their goals.

Meet Dre White, a San Diego native who now calls Florida home. He owns a small bakery called "I Want That Yummy" with his wife, and they've been in business for almost five years now. 

But Dre's journey to success hasn't been easy. He went through a rough patch when he was homeless for a while. Fortunately, he met his wife in a homeless shelter, and together they worked hard to get back on their feet.

Dre's story is one of resilience and determination. He never gave up, even when things seemed hopeless. His advice to others in similar situations is simple but powerful: never give up, keep fighting, and know that there is help out there. You're not alone.

So what motivated Dre to start his bakery? It was his wife's love of cooking and his own passion for baking. They started out small, giving away food to friends and family. Eventually, they moved into a commercial kitchen and started selling their delicious creations to the public.

Dre's life motto is "keep on sparkling." It's a reminder to stay positive and keep shining, even in the face of adversity. And that's exactly what Dre has done - he's turned his struggles into success, and he's not looking back.

Meet Erika, a woman who is always on the go. Whether it's running, working out, or attending events with her children, you can find her in action. 

Today, we're at the park to chat with her about her life. When asked about a special moment in her life, Erika beams as she recalls her wedding day. She and her husband chose the date 11/11 because they love the numbers and find them lucky. "Every time there's an 11:11, I'm almost like sending him a screenshot or something," Erika chuckles. Their wedding was a moment she will always cherish, especially since their children were present to celebrate with them.

So, how did Erika and her husband meet? Well, it's a story that goes back over 20 years. They went to the same high school, had mutual friends, but they didn't like each other then. Erika's brother was one of his friends, and she played basketball with some of his friends. In fact, he even took one of her best friends to prom! But things changed in February 2014 when they matched on a dating app on Facebook. They went to lunch at Chili's in Naples. Chris recalls Erika eating off his plate and jokingly thinking "What the F" they later ended up going to Home Depot together to pick up parts. Which he thought was pretty cool of her to go.

Within a few days, he was meeting her kids, and by December, they were engaged.

Eleven months later, on Veterans Day, they tied the knot. Erica says they have a lovely blended family, and they've faced challenges, but they've overcome them because they make a great team. "We support each other through pretty much everything," she says.

Erika and her husband faced some challenges in their lives, including previous divorces, having different numbers of children, and blending their families together. However, they worked hard as a team and overcame these challenges, building a happy and loving blended family. Their two oldest children are already out of the house, with one working as a truck driver and the other in college, while their two younger children are excelling in school and sports. 

Despite everything they've been through, Erika and her husband remain a strong team, supporting each other through everything. They still enjoy spending time together and doing things as a family, and they're always pushing each other to try new things and be their best selves. It's clear that Erika's love for her family is a driving force in her life, and she's grateful for everything they've accomplished together. 

As we wrap up our chat, Erika shares some words of wisdom. "Never say never because if we're united, pretty much anything can happen." 

Khadija Lewis, a woman of Moroccan origin, sat down with me to share her story. "I've lived in many places - Morocco, Paris, Portugal - but now I'm in the United States," she said. "It's been a journey with many challenges, but I've always tried to make the best of every situation." 

"Moving to new places and adapting to new cultures has been both exciting and challenging at the same time," she shared with me. "But I'm grateful for all the experiences that have made me who I am today."

I was intrigued by Khadija's story and asked her what brought her to Florida. "Freedom," she replied simply. "I came to Florida seeking a new start and a new sense of freedom that I felt I couldn't find elsewhere. It's been a challenging journey, but I feel like I've finally found a place where I can be myself and thrive."

As our conversation continued, I asked Khadija about a moment in her life that was particularly meaningful or memorable. Her face lit up as she spoke about the birth of her son. "For someone who, until the age of 34, didn't want to have a family or kids, it changed my perception about life and about love. It was a moment that transformed my life in so many ways, and I am so grateful for it."

I could sense the pride and joy in Khadija's voice as she spoke about her family. "I'm proud of so many things, but I think my biggest achievement is maintaining a happy marriage and a happy family. It takes a lot of work and dedication, but it's worth it."

Curious to know more about Khadija's love story, I asked her about how she and her husband met. She smiled and told me it was a bit of a long story, but that she believed in fate and knew they were meant to meet.

Khadija was working with Pharmaceuticals at the time and was responsible for all the seminars in her country and North Africa, promoting their products. Her boss decided that she should stay back to prepare for the launch of a new product, so she didn't go to Paris for a doctor's gathering. Meanwhile, her husband received a call that he had to be in Paris that same night for a meeting. They flew from different destinations to Paris and coincidentally, both ended up at the same hotel. They met at a jazz bar and talked until 5 in the morning. "It was a fairy tale moment for me, and I still remember it vividly," she said with a smile.

Khadija's story was a testament to the power of perseverance and the belief that fate brings people together. I left our conversation feeling inspired by her strength, resilience, and love for her family.

"It was a big change for me, moving away from everything I had known. But I was ready for a change, and Florida seemed like the perfect place to start fresh. It was a difficult transition at first, but I soon realized how lucky I was to be surrounded by such amazing people."

Amanda spoke fondly of the friends she had made in Florida and how they had become her family away from home. But her biggest blessing came in the form of her baby girl, who was born in 2016.

"I had never experienced a love like that before. It was a feeling of pure joy and happiness. My daughter brought so much light and purpose into my life, and I knew that I was meant to be a mother." Fast forward to 2021, and Amanda found herself marrying her best friend, and everything seemed to fall perfectly into place.

"As I stood there, looking into my husband's eyes, I knew that I was exactly where I was meant to be. We had been friends for years, but it wasn't until recently that we realized that we were meant to be more.

He is my rock, and I am grateful every day for his love and support." 

Even as Amanda and her husband search for homes in different states, she knows that Florida has given her so much and will always hold a special place in her heart.

"I may be leaving Florida, but it will never leave me. The memories, the people, and the experiences will always be a part of me. I'll never regret moving here."

As I sat down with him, his eyes shone with a sense of conviction and purpose. He spoke with passion and fervor as he shared his proudest moment - devoting his life to missions and sharing the message of Jesus Christ with others.

"For me, going into missions and living a life laid down for Jesus has been the proudest moment of my life. It's not about money or material possessions, but about serving and telling people about what Jesus has done for us."

He spoke about how he had struggled with his faith in the past, going through phases of partying and living life for himself. But a friend had inspired him to pursue a life of ministry, and he had answered the call.

"The Lord opened up a doorway for me to go into missions, and I couldn't even believe it. My job shut down, and I had no income, but I knew that if this was what the Lord wanted for me, he would provide. And he did. For a year, he's been providing for me, leading me down here to Fort Myers."

As he spoke, it was clear that he was filled with a deep sense of purpose and meaning. His proudest moment wasn't a single event or achievement but rather a lifetime devoted to serving others and sharing the message of hope and salvation.

"I'm not worried about material possessions or whether I'll have enough money for my next meal. 

I know that the Lord will provide for me every step of the way, and that's all that matters. Living a life laid down for Jesus is the proudest moment of my life, and I wouldn't have it any other way."

As he finished speaking, I was struck by his unwavering faith and dedication to his calling. His story was a reminder that true pride and fulfillment come not from what we achieve or acquire but from how we serve and love others.

"I'm originally from Palm Bay Melbourne, Florida, but I grew up in Minnesota. I didn't graduate from high school, but I got my GED. 

Anyway, my story is about how I came to Fort Myers and ended up rescuing a small sailboat.

I have a bigger boat that I keep in mint condition, but I found myself smoking cigars at a nearby cigar bar whenever I took it out. I would be in the back of the boat, in what I call the Captain's Quarters, feeling like Captain Ahab or Jack Sparrow. But then I stumbled upon this small sailboat that was beached and in need of rescue.

It's been quite a project, but I've been fixing it up little by little. Right now, I'm filling it up with foam pieces to repair the damage caused by a storm. It's not a fancy boat, but I feel like I'm giving it a new life.  It's been a fun and challenging project, and I'm excited to see where it takes me next. "

Meet Angela, a proud mother of three children, two boys, and a girl. Her daughter Brighton was a surprise blessing that she didn't expect at the age of 45. When Angela found out that she was pregnant, she was scared and worried about starting all over again at that age. But at the same time, she was proud and grateful to God for answering her prayers to have three kids.

Angela's husband initially thought that one child was enough, but Angela had always dreamt of having two boys and a girl. It took time, but eventually, she got her wish, though not all at once. Her eldest children are now 19 and 16 years old, and then came Brighton, 12 years later. 

Interestingly, Angela is also 12 years apart from her brother.

Despite the initial fear and uncertainty that came with the news of her pregnancy, Angela embraced the experience and did her best to take care of her newborn daughter. 

She exercised every day and relied on the support of her family. Brighton, now a sweet and adorable child, brings joy to Angela's life, and her birth will always be a proud and grateful moment for her.

Angela's story teaches us that sometimes things may not come when we expect them to, but they come when they are supposed to. It reminds us to embrace every experience and be grateful for what we have. Angela's story is beautiful, and we can all learn something from her experience.

My name is Amanda, and I'm originally from New York, but I moved down to Florida in 2004. I grew up in Naples and went to college at FGCU, where I got a bachelor's degree in marketing.

After graduation, I started working in marketing departments for larger companies and eventually moved on to working for marketing agencies. One memorable moment that stands out to me was last year when I was complaining about my job to my dad. He suggested that I start my own agency, but at the time, I didn't think it was a good idea. 

However, over time I eventually decided to start my own agency with my co-owner. Which I couldn't have done it without their support. It wasn't a specific moment, but rather a turning point that developed. 

I realized that I would rather be just as stressed out but know that I'm doing things in a way that makes the most sense for my clients, staff, and myself. I left my previous job because of a toxic work environment where nobody appreciated or liked the behavior of our boss. It was a revolving door, but my current team worked for that person too, and they understand why I started my own agency. Now, we work together to make sure things are done correctly and effectively. 

 "I started skating in May of last year," she says. "I was just praying for the Lord to use it and that I would be able to share the gospel."

She talks about the skating community, how she loves the people and the culture. "I was praying for that door to open," she continues, "and then I saw Ride Nature on Instagram."

It was the discipleship program that caught her attention first, but the very next day they posted that they needed a coffee shop manager, which was already what she was doing in Greenville, South Carolina. "I just applied," she says, "and it's been such a journey."

As she waters her plants one morning, she notices a dead plant that has suddenly sprouted a bit of green. "The Lord reminded me how we can water and nurture unbelievers," she says. "I was once dead in my transgressions, and He brought life to me. It's just like how He can bring life from anything."

She's been praying for opportunities to share the gospel with people who don't know Him, and she's seen God work in amazing ways. "It's a blessing to be here," she says with a smile. "Watching God do His thing is the biggest blessing of all."

Meet Matthew, a 33-year-old small business owner from SWFL who is passionate about what he does. Despite the challenges he has faced, he says his biggest strength is the people he surrounds himself with, including family, friends, and clients.

Matthew runs a delivery company called First Class Delivery, and he believes that the key to success is staying positive and surrounding yourself with good people.  Matthew's life has been full of ups and downs, including a move to Alaska in 2009 when the housing market crash hit hard. Where he worked in the fishing industry and did some soul-searching. 

However, he eventually moved back to SWFL when the economy started to come back, and he has been working hard ever since to build his business and help others. Matthew has overcome a lot of trials, including being bullied in school, but he believes that his purpose in life is to have a good life and help people by giving them a chance, just like his biggest client did for him.  

When asked about advice for struggling business owners, Matthew emphasizes the importance of consistency, hard work, determination, and surrounding yourself with good people. He believes that success is determined by how you pick yourself back up after facing challenges and how you focus on moving forward. Matthew's motto in life is to stay positive and always keep pushing forward, no matter what life throws your way. 

"My name is Rhett, and I'm almost 25 years old. I was born and raised in Florida, specifically in Fort Lauderdale on the East Coast. However, I've been living here in the Fort Myers area for the past seven years."

"I came to Fort Myers for school. I went to FGCU and graduated with a marketing degree after four years.

Looking back, I'd say that one of the most memorable moments in my life was my older brother's wedding. 

The wedding happened during Hurricane Ian, which hit Fort Myers hard and caused a lot of disruption." 

"Some of the guests had to drive for days to make it to the wedding because flights were cancelled, and the situation was really stressful for my brother and his wife. But my cousin and I managed to escape the storm and spend a couple of days with them before the wedding in Orlando. We managed to keep their spirits up and turn the situation into something fun."

"After the wedding, my sister-in-law told us that she was so grateful that we were there because we helped keep things normal and took her mind off the disaster. It was nice to be there for my family and see my brother get married to someone he's known for so long. It's a memory that I'll never forget."

"If I had to give advice to someone going through a similar situation, I would say that it's important not to sweat the details. Sure, things might not be going the way you planned, but stressing out over things you can't control won't help. Just focus on the things you can influence, and try to keep a smile on your face."

"My name is Marcela Romero, and I'm originally from Colombia. I was born and raised there, and I've been in Florida for 16 years, living all over the state. I've been from Miami to Gainesville to Tallahassee, and now residing in Southwest Florida."

When I asked Marcela what brought her to Southwest Florida, she replied, "Honestly, I was taking a gap year after my Master's, and my best friend was living here. So, I just kind of came here and hung out with her for a little bit. I then met the person that I'm with now, the love of my life. We fell in love and started creating a life together, and I ended up staying here."

Marcela's passion is storytelling." I've been blogging for over 10 years on various topics. It's amusing how people assume I've only focused on food, but I've also delved into fashion and music. However, I never pursued it as a career until recently. Now, I'm excited to combine visual storytelling with my words. I enjoy creating videos that showcase the diversity of the places I've lived in, and I love sharing the stories of those places."

When Marcela was asked about her journey in storytelling, she shared with me that 'Love SWFL' came about due to the COVID-19 pandemic. "At the time, I wanted to help smaller businesses since we had no idea how long we were going to be closed for. We didn't know what was going to happen. In Colombia, they even closed the airports, so I thought the same was going to happen here. I thought to myself, 'Oh my God, everybody's going to start losing so much money, and they need this for their livelihood.' Before this, I used to work full-time in the nonprofit sector, and I had a lot of people come to me, crying and embarrassed because they had never had to ask for free food or anything. It was heartbreaking to see them go through hard times.

I heard their stories of 'I've had this restaurant or this store for like 20 years, but now because of COVID, I'm going to have to close down.' And I was like, 'Okay, what can I do?' I don't have hundreds of millions of dollars to help everyone, but what can I do? And then it struck me- I have a voice, and I know how to tell stories through video and words. So, I started this little project called 'Love SWFL'.' And it took off, and that's how I started doing this."

Marcela has had to overcome many struggles in her life, one of which was moving to a different country when she was 18. "That was a lot, just kind of getting acclimated to the culture in a different country. But something that I struggled a lot with throughout my life is mental health. I suffer from major depression, and in 2021, I started getting panic attacks, which was absolutely horrible, and I don't wish it upon anyone. I was really sick. I was having five to ten panic attacks a day. I was on the floor crying and having such a hard time. I think just the isolation from COVID and everything just kind of didn't help, obviously."

Marcela continued, "So, my advice to anyone suffering from panic attacks or depression would be to seek professional help, whether that's a therapist, psychiatrist, or counselor. There are also support groups and online communities that can provide a sense of connection and understanding. Another thing that has helped me is practicing self-care, whether that's exercise, meditation, journaling, or spending time in nature. It's important to find what works for you and make it a priority. 

Finally, I would say to be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to feel what you're feeling. It's okay to not be okay, and it's important to allow yourself the time and space to heal. Overall, mental health is a journey, and it's important to remember that recovery is possible. With the right support and resources, it is possible to overcome the challenges of mental illness and live a fulfilling life."

When I asked Marcela if she had any tips or guidance on pursuing a passion in blogging she shared "The advice that I would give to someone who is looking to pursue a passion in blogging or building a social media presence is to start and keep going. Like anything in business, it's important to be prepared for failure, but instead of viewing it as a setback, use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Take the time to reflect on what went wrong, what could have been done differently, and make adjustments accordingly. Don't be afraid to pivot and try new things, and always be open to different opportunities. 

Personally, I regret waiting too long to start pursuing my passion, and wish I had started ten years ago. So, if you're considering starting a blog or building a social media presence, don't hesitate any longer. Just start, and keep going."

In conclusion, it was a pleasure speaking with Marcela Romero, a passionate storyteller and creator of ' Love SWFL'. Marcela's journey in storytelling and her dedication to supporting small businesses during and after the pandemic is truly inspiring. Marcela's story reminds us that it's never too late to start something new, and with perseverance and self-care, we can overcome any obstacle. I look forward to seeing her continue to share the stories of the places she loves.

Instagram: @loveswfl

"Hi, my name's Michael Jones. I was born in Hawkesbury, Canada, but I've spent a good portion of my life up in Pennsylvania. Eventually, I made the move down to Florida, and I've been here ever since. It's quite a change from the cold weather up north, but I've adjusted to the warmth over time.

My life has had its share of challenges. One of the best moments was when I had the opportunity to leave for college. You see, I grew up in a very difficult and abusive environment, enduring severe abuse for 18 long years. It's something that has deeply affected me, and I don't think I'll ever forget it. Even now, as old as I am, those memories still haunt me.

Another memorable moment for me was the day I was offered to play the piano professionally, I've been playing the piano my whole life. I believe it's a gift from God. During my college years, a remarkable incident occurred. I was playing in the college's music department when a gentleman walked in and took notice. He invited me to his office and offered to make my name known in the music world. He even offered to pay for my entire musical education. However, I had to consult my mom first, as I was studying Pharmacy at the time. Unfortunately, my mom declined the opportunity, insisting I finish Pharmacy first. I went back to the music college director and turned down the incredible offer. Looking back, I realize what a rare chance I had,

But here I am in Florida, with my emotional support dog, Lola. She means everything to me. Recently, I was diagnosed with cancer, and Lola has been my constant companion throughout this difficult journey. She's been an incredible source of support, along with the care and dedication of the doctors and palliative care nurses who have helped me immensely. As well as my caring sister Colleen. Without their support, I'd be in a much worse place than I am now.

So, every day is a new day for me. I'm grateful to be alive and still fighting. I believe that in the end, God will determine what's next for me, so I pray and cherish the love and support I receive from everyone around me.

I'm pretty satisfied with where I am in life, considering everything. When my time comes, I hope my beloved dog Lola can go with me, so we can leave this world together.

As for advice to my younger self or anyone out there, I simply wish for everyone to find happiness at some point in their lives. It's important to listen and communicate with others, taking their advice to heart. When we connect with people and seek understanding, things have a way of falling into place for everyone.

Lastly, I want to emphasize the importance of never letting an opportunity pass you by. Life is full of chances, both big and small, and it's crucial to recognize them when they come your way. Whether it's pursuing a passion, taking a risk, or making a life-changing decision, seize those moments and make the most of them. Regret can weigh heavy on the heart, so embrace the opportunities that come your way and make them count."

 "My name is Melody. I'm a 39-year-old 100 T Master Captain licensed by the United States Coast Guard. I'm originally from Southern California, where I spent the first 29 years of my life. I'll never forget the earthquake that shook us all in 1997 - it taught me a lot about survival and the fragility of life. But that wasn't the only challenge I faced growing up. My parents both struggled with addiction - my father was a heroin addict and my mom liked uppers and alcohol. By the time I was 12, our family had fallen apart, and my brother and I ended up in foster care.

Despite all that, I managed to turn my life around. I became a mother at 17, and now have a 22-year-old daughter named Madyson and a 13-year-old son named George (who happens to be the best roommate I've ever had!). I also have a lovable pit bull puppy named Chico who keeps me on my toes. For many years, I worked tirelessly in IT across three different time zones, which eventually brought me to Naples, Florida.

It was in Naples where I met someone who taught me a lot about professionalism and hard work. His name was Greg Scasny, and he was a project management guru. Under his guidance, I grew from a coordinator in a dispatch position to a managed service support manager. Eventually, I became the assistant director of operations, which led me to Southwest Florida. But I always knew I wouldn't be working there forever - my son's father was a Marine from Indiana, and we had plans to move there together to make more money and spend less.

Sadly, things didn't quite work out as planned. In 2014, while driving to O'Hare airport during a massive snowstorm, I was in a horrific car accident that left me with 23 broken bones, 21 broken bones in my face, and a snapped femur. I spent 1,351 days without walking, had 10 surgeries, and was told I'd never walk again on three separate occasions. But I refused to give up. I fought through the pain and never let my spirit be broken.

Tragically, my father passed away the day I was released from the hospital. It was a difficult time for me, but I found solace in the fact that I had reunited with him just a few months prior. He had apologized for the pain he inflicted on me as a child, and I finally had closure. But losing him was devastating. I thought things couldn't get any worse.

Despite all the setbacks, I've never lost my optimism or my fighting spirit. In 2019, I secretly made a plan to move somewhere tropical with my son, and we finally made the leap in April of that year. We now live in Paradise, surrounded by beautiful views and a supportive community. Life isn't always easy, but I've learned to be resilient and to never give up on my dreams.

But my journey doesn't end there. Just a few weeks after moving to Paradise, I received the devastating news that my mother had taken her own life. It was a complete shock - she had struggled with mental health issues for years, but I never imagined she would do something like this. It was a difficult time for me and my family, but we found strength in each other and in the beauty of our surroundings.

But even with all the physical and mental pain, I still felt like I had found my purpose on the water. Being out there, navigating the waves. It just felt right. And I loved being able to share that love of the water with others, whether it was through taking them on a sunset cruise or teaching them how to fish.

So, I continue to captain my boats, teach people how to fish, and share my love of the water with others.

My story doesn't end there. I can hardly believe that it's been just over six months since Hurricane Ian hit Fort Myers Beach. It feels like a lifetime ago, and yet the memories of that day are still so vivid in my mind.

I was just turning 39 that day, my birthday, when I woke up to howling winds outside my home. I had anticipated staying put and weathering the storm with my son and dog, making jokes about climbing on top of our snack cabinet for safety. But the tides came in that night, and I realized that we needed to seek higher ground.

A friend of mine called from Rome and urged me to get off the island, and I quickly started posting on social media and doing livestreams to urge others to do the same. I left that morning with my son and dog, carrying only a backpack of supplies and a cooler full of snacks.

Little did I know that the storm would be far worse than I could have ever imagined. Over the course of that day, I watched as the entire Gulf of Mexico swallowed up the island that I loved so much. The winds reached speeds of 165 miles per hour, and I could hear choppers flying overhead for hours on end. I felt completely traumatized from the storm itself, but knew that I had to help others who were in need.

In the aftermath of Hurricane Ian, I spent 13 tireless days working in search and rescue. I was told by the emergency outreach coordination team to go aid all the islands north of Sanibel, as they had Hazmat situations on Fort Myers Beach. I knew that this was where I needed to be, even though it meant being displaced from my son for the time being.

During those 13 days, I saw things that I never thought I'd see in my life. The boats were everywhere, and the carnage that Mother Nature had wrought was truly devastating. But even in the midst of such chaos, I was amazed by the resilience of the human spirit. I saw people coming together to help one another, offering whatever they could to those who had lost everything.

There was one moment during those 13 days that I will never forget. I had gone to Emily Lane to check on a neighbor, and found her unconscious and lifeless, buried under a pile of debris. I knew that I had to act fast, and began performing CPR in the back of a truck. We drove her to safety in the back of someone else's truck, knowing that the ambulance wouldn't be able to reach her in time.

In the days following the storm, many people were left stranded, missing, or worse. The devastation was overwhelming, and it seemed like there was no end in sight.

As a resident of San Carlos Island, I had heard about the safety protocols that were put in place to help people during such disasters. One of the protocols was to have different types of alarms, and a whistle was one of them. If you hear whistles, someone is in danger, and you need to take action. So, when I heard 16 whistles, I knew that something was wrong.

Without hesitation, I went walking all the way down to the end of San Carlos Island, and I heard five more whistles. I knew that people were in trouble and that I needed to do something to help. I didn't see any helicopters or boats going back there, so I sprang into action. I don't even know what led me to do it, but I ended up creating a captain Coalition for Humanity. I partnered up with a few other coalitions, and together, we identified 11 people by day 12 that were still in the mangroves. They were alive, and we helped them get off their boats and out of the mangroves.

This experience changed my life forever, and it was just the beginning. I was then asked by the Southwest Florida K-9 rescue and Recovery dog team to be their guide, and we had five hard hits on scents in the Back Bay. Two of them were right where they found those deceased souls on January 13th of this year. I was directly involved in search and rescue immediately following the hurricane, and it was like something you couldn’t ever believe.

There were over a thousand people who had passed away by day 15 that they were bringing from other islands. I was actually helping them route their ambulances as an access route for Ambulatory Care from people from all the islands.

What that did, along with all the very small media companies that nobody told to leave and has not situations, was congest Fort Myers beaches. One way in, one way out bridge. They didn't search the island to Fort Myers Beach until day three. I had 68 people on a list, and it took me a little under 38 days to find all of them. But the hardest part was not knowing who was still missing. A lot of the people that we have in our community that were boaters were out here because they didn't really have many loved ones who would report them missing. So, we talk about numbers. We talk about deaths, but we'll never know the true numbers.

Moving forward, I took myself out of search and rescue after just exhausting. My whole face was sunburned off after that, and my son and I went up to St. Pete. We stayed in a hotel resort for five days to decompress so that we could re-home, and then we came back out. A couple of my friends got me a really sweet house up in North Cape Coral, six miles from Pine Island.
Even now, looking back on that experience, I am in awe of the human capacity for compassion and resilience. I learned so much about myself during those 13 days, and about the incredible community of people that I call my friends and neighbors. We were all in this together, and we knew that we had to help each other through the aftermath of one of the worst storms in recent memory.

In the end, I came out of Hurricane Ian with a renewed sense of purpose and a deeper appreciation for life. I realized that no matter what challenges I might face in the future, I would always have the strength and resilience to overcome them. And I knew that I would always have the support of the incredible community of people that I call my friends and family.

I've been displaced for six months and have about an hour and 10-minute drive to take my son to school every day. Now, six months later, my son is back in aviation and has also joined a gym. I'm working full-time at a marina at Fort Myers Beach. My next step is a solid home, and it's coming in less than two months. I will have successfully gotten back everything I had before Hurricane Ian."

Melody's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit in the face of tragedy. Though she has found her footing and is making progress towards rebuilding her life, she acknowledges that there are some losses that can never be recovered. There are still loved ones lost in the wake of the hurricane that she can never get back.

But despite this, Melody remains committed to moving forward and finding happiness where she can. She knows that in the face of trauma and tragedy, the choice between bitterness and betterness is just one letter apart, but the impact can be life-changing. By choosing to focus on the positive and surround herself with supportive friends and family, she is creating a new and fulfilling life for herself.

Melody's journey is a reminder that even in the darkest of times, there is always hope for a brighter tomorrow. Her strength and perseverance serve as an inspiration to those around her, and her story is a testament to the power of the human spirit.

As Melody looks forward to the next chapter of her life, she is grateful for the support and friendship of those around her. Her story is a testament to the power of community, and a reminder that we are all in this together. We can only hope that her spirit and determination will continue to inspire us all for years to come. 

"Hi there! My name is Colleen Swartz; I grew up in a small town in Pennsylvania, right on Lake Erie. Those shores hold so many wonderful memories for me. Growing up, I loved the thrill of windsurfing and the excitement of water skiing on the lake with my 4 younger brothers. Those were moments of pure joy and freedom. Those experiences nurtured my love for the great outdoors and instilled in me a spirit of adventure.

After college, I felt this pull towards the ocean and sunshine, and that's what led me to Florida where my brother Michael had relocated. The ocean became my happy place, a source of inspiration and tranquility. Being by the water fills me with a sense of peace and awe that I can't quite put into words.

I met my now ex-husband on Sanibel and got married exactly a year to the day later. We had four incredible children. As an adopted child, I always carried a longing to form a family of my own, one that I could call mine and cherish deeply. My children are the sunshine in my life, 

bringing endless love and joy. My kids mean the world to me, and I always strive to create a close bond between us. I encourage my children to support and cherish each other because, at the end of the day, family is one of the greatest gifts we have. 

Recently, I made a big career change and became a travel advisor for Preferred Travel of Naples. I'm naturally curious and crave adventure, so this new path allows me to explore the world, meet fascinating people, and dive into different cultures. It's a way for me to channel my passion for travel and help others create their own extraordinary journeys. I believe that through travel, we can grow, learn, and give back something special to the people in the world around us.
Life, as we all know, has its share of challenges. I've learned to view them as opportunities for growth. They shape us, make us stronger, and deepen our empathy towards others. It's about embracing those hardships, learning from them, and finding the resilience within ourselves to come through them.

A few months ago, I found out that my brother has stage 4 cancer. It’s something that only those who have traveled this path can relate to and understand the pain in your gut and heart. It is a challenge I haven’t known or wanted to know. I am walking with Michael one day at a time and cherishing the time I have with him. The best way I know to do this is to lean on and rely on Jesus Who has helped me through all the other challenges in my life. He is my strength and has surrounded me with family and friends who support us.

If I could share some advice with anyone out there embarking on their journey, it would be this: Let go of the past and focus on the present. The past is behind us, unchangeable. By releasing our attachment to it, we free ourselves to embrace new experiences and open new doors. Life is all about living in the present, and seizing every opportunity that comes our way with an open heart and a curious mind. So, let's continue to embrace the beauty of the world, cherish our loved ones while they are still with us, and find the courage to step into new adventures. Together, we can make the most of this extraordinary journey called life."

"My name is Chaise Shaw. The most vivid memory that sticks with me is from about two and a half years back when I made the leap to Fort Myers. It was a whole new chapter, leaving behind Minnesota, and embarking on a fresh adventure.

I remember that moment distinctly – my girlfriend Emma and I pulled up at an Airbnb, unloaded our luggage, and then took a drive over the bridge to Fort Myers Beach. The sun was setting, painting the scene with stunning hues, and it hit me – this was my first glimpse of Fort Myers Beach. Tears welled up in our eyes, tears of happiness. It felt like home in an instant, a feeling I hadn't quite experienced before, not even back in Minneapolis, where I'm originally from.

Leaving behind certain aspects of my past, it was a transformative experience. As we drove over the Fort Myers Beach Bridge, that feeling of arriving home washes over me even today. And that's when Emma and I decided to channel this energy into something positive – we launched the "Tested and Twisted" podcast.

The podcast is more than just a project; it's our way of giving back. Coming from a background with family struggles involving addiction, I know the challenges all too well. I've been down that road, battled my own demons, and emerged stronger. The podcast is an avenue to share these experiences, to provide a lifeline to those facing similar battles. It's about lending a listening ear, amplifying voices, and showing people that there's hope beyond the struggle.

Growing up, I faced a lot of difficulties. Losing important figures in my life at a young age and dealing with the absence of a father left me grappling with abandonment issues. It all spiraled when I was at a party in my early teens and experimented with drugs. From there, the downward spiral began.

But I can say this to anyone grappling with addiction – it does get better. It's not an overnight fix, and it demands effort, but there's light at the end of the tunnel. Finding a therapist who resonates with you can work wonders, and meditation, though challenging initially, can be a powerful tool to calm the mind, particularly in dealing with anxiety.

Our podcast covers a spectrum of stories. From tales of triumph to those laced with trauma, we bring guests on board to share their journeys. Sometimes, someone might share a seemingly simple success story, but it might strike a chord with someone else who's going through a rough patch. On the flip side, we feature guests who've braved abusive relationships, navigated the Foster Care System, and more. These stories resonate deeply with listeners who might find solace in knowing they're not alone in their struggles.

During my own battle with addiction, I often felt isolated. That's why it's so essential to have these stories out there – they connect people who might be grappling with similar challenges and let them know that they're not alone.

And that's pretty much the essence of our podcast – a platform for people to share, relate, and find strength in each other's experiences. If anyone out there is feeling lost or burdened, I hope they'll give us a listen and find a glimmer of hope, a thread of connection that lets them know they're not alone on their journey."

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James Allen Starkloff, now 68 years old, has been residing in Florida since 1976. Becky
Starkloff, who would rather not give her age, has been residing in Florida since 1976. Little did they know that their paths would eventually cross in an unexpected and serendipitous manner, bringing them together after a decade of near-misses.


James found his options limited after discharging from the U.S. Army in 1975. He decided to briefly move in with his parents and brothers and sisters in Pleasant Ridge, Michigan. He fell in love with Florida after vacationing in the warm sun and decided to move to Miami in March of 1976. Seeking respite from the harsh winters and cold weather, Florida beckoned as a promising destination.


Becky moved to Homestead, Florida in 1976. She was still a young woman at the time and was the live in nanny to two children in a Non Denominational minister’s household.


Initially settling in Miami, James spent three years there before relocating his trailer to Florida City, where he resided in a mobile home park that was later devastated by Hurricane Andrew. He took on a job in Key Largo, caring for emotionally disturbed children. The Keys was a true adventurous lifestyle for James. He experienced a great deal of living and even wrote a book about it entitled, “Life on the Meridian”.


James was a somewhat solitary individual although he longed to find the right partner. It was through an unexpected turn of events that he crossed paths with Becky. James was first introduced to a woman that turned out to be a dead end relationship. But during this relationship, he was forced to move to Homestead because his girlfriend that he hoped to have a relationship with had a small daughter and it was impossible to find an apartment in the Florida Keys that would accommodate children. James had made a promise to a friend of his girlfriend that he’d help her move to another apartment on moving day.


After the relationship with his girlfriend had dissolved, James moved back to his sailboat in Key Largo. A couple of months had gone by and James had pretty much forgotten about the entire episode of his life with her. Then one night the phone rang and it was the woman that he’d promise to help in a move. He decided to keep his promise and help with the move. After helping with the move, the woman suggested the possibility of James meeting someone, igniting James' curiosity he agreed, and she took the initiative to arrange a date for them at a local restaurant.


Their first date was anything but ordinary. James recalls wishing for her to have given her
advance notice that it was a restaurant so that he could have gone to the bank for more money. Unfazed by the predicament, James ventured out to his car, collecting the change scattered on the floor. Determined to make the most of the situation, he counted out the coins, ensuring he had enough for the meal. Their choice of dining venue was Golden Corral, and James paid for their entire meal using coins, from quarters, nickels and dimes. The experience left an indelible mark on their memories.


As James and Becky got to know each other better, they discovered that their paths had
crisscrossed throughout their time in Florida, unknowingly missing each other by mere
moments. Both had been residents of the state since 1976, but fate had kept them apart until that fateful date finally brought them together.


Their relationship blossomed, leading them to exchange vows in marriage. Their union, like any other, encountered its fair share of challenges. Financial difficulties tested their resolve, with debts accumulating to a staggering $50,000 in credit cards alone. However, their commitment to each other and their shared journey allowed them to overcome these obstacles. They consolidated their debts and worked diligently to repay them, eventually emerging victorious and gaining valuable lessons along the way.


But their journey extended beyond their personal struggles. Together, James and Becky
embarked on a mission to provide a loving and nurturing environment for foster children. Over the years, they opened their hearts and home to numerous children, offering stability and care during uncertain times. Their dedication went beyond temporary foster care, as they eventually adopted several children, including Grace in 2017 and Kearston and Hailey in 2018.


Through their experiences, James and Becky have come to understand that marriage is an ongoing partnership that requires trust, compromise, and open communication. They have learned to support each other's dreams and navigate their differences, which at times are as wide as 180 degrees. Their ability to understand and meet each other's needs without constant verbal communication has been a testament to their profound connection.


Their love and support have extended beyond the boundaries of their relationship. When
Becky's father succumbed to pancreatic cancer, James stood by her side, providing strength and solace during the most challenging of times. It was during these moments that they truly comprehended the depth of their love and the power it holds in healing wounds and providing comfort.


Reflecting on their journey, James and Becky offer valuable advice to those embarking on their own path of love and commitment. They emphasize the importance of trust, open
communication, and mutual respect in any partnership. Prioritizing these qualities can help weather the storms that life inevitably brings.


"Marriage is hard work, but it's worth it. We've faced financial hardships and even thought we might have gone bankrupt, we managed to overcome that obstacle. We were once burdened with $50,000 in credit card debt, but we persevered. Through it all, we've learned that living together before marriage, especially in close quarters like a small sailboat, can truly test arelationship. If you can get along with someone in such tight spaces, your marriage should last."


James emphasizes the significance of trust, urging couples to ask themselves a pivotal question before taking the plunge: "Would I trust this person with a million dollars cash money to put in the bank?" This question, while unconventional, encapsulates the essence of a strong and enduring partnership.


As James and Becky continue their journey together, they remain grateful for the love they share, the family they have built, and the countless memories they have created. Their story serves as a testament to the enduring power of love, trust, and compassion, inspiring others to embrace these qualities and make a positive impact on the lives of those around them.